There was a time, not too long ago, when anal sex was taboo and only seen in porn but things change and more & more people are trying it and finding out all the pleasures it has to offer.
If you’re new to anal sex it can seem daunting with a million questions running around your head so I’m here to give you the low down on all things anal.
Get comfortable with the idea of anal sex
Before delving into anal sex, you should talk it through it with your partner first. The last thing you want before attempting anal play or sex is to be tense so make sure you’re both on the same page about things like speed and depth.
Believe me it will make the whole experience more intimate and pleasurable for both of you.
Cleanliness
A big concern for first-timers stems from the idea that anal sex is “unclean” but it’s a misconception so let go of any embarrassment surrounding what goes on back there and focus on the pleasure you’re experiencing instead.
If you have a healthy bowel, faeces shouldn’t be a problem. If you’re worried, you can try to have bowel movement 30 mins before engaging in anal and wash with warm water and soap (externally only).
If you’re still uncomfortably with the thought of any potential mess you can use a douche. They’re easy to use, discrete and will give you added peace of mind.
Try anal training first
If you’re considering trying anal sex, I strongly recommend anal training first. It will make your first experience of anal sex so much more enjoyable and reduce and pain you may experience as your muscles have already been trained.
Relax!
If your tense and nervous, you’re not going to enjoy the experience so spend some time relaxing beforehand, try taking a hot bath or have your partner give you a sensual massage. The more relaxed you are the better it will feel.
You can never have too much lube
Anal sex can be incredibly satisfying and when done right it could become your new favourite sex act.
With all sex acts, the most important thing is that both parties are enjoying themselves and it’s no different for anal sex, but that doesn’t mean it’s as straightforward as vaginal sex.
Unlike the vagina, the rectum doesn’t produce any natural lubricant to help things run smoothly, this means rushing into anal sex is ill-advised so reach for the lube and don’t be skimpy!
Make sure the lube you choose is anal sex safe so be sure to check the label and read the instructions properly before use.
You can also try an anal relaxant spray to help reduce the sensitivity of your sphincter without any loss of sensation.
Don’t skip the foreplay
Now that your lubed up you should consider warming up to full penetration with anal foreplay. Try getting your partner to insert a finger so you get used to the sensation, once your comfortable with this you can also try using a small anal toy before progressing to the main event.
It’s important to remember anal sex should be a pleasurable experience so communicate with your partner and let them know what is and isn’t working for you.
For the love of God don’t use porn as your “How To” guide!
Please, please don’t use porn as a guide on what anal sex should look like. In fact, this goes for any and all sex acts! Porn is fantasy and should never be used to compare yourself to.
Anal sex should be something you take slowly until you become comfortable with the new sensations.
Don’t swap holes
This is very important and shouldn’t be ignored. Do not go from anal to vaginal sex. Why? Any bacteria inside your anus can increase your risk of getting UTI’s, yeast infections and other nasty’s you don’t want to be dealing with.
If you want to go between anal and vaginal sex use condoms and remember to put on a new one every time you swap holes.
Don’t push through the pain
New sensations and feelings are to be expected when trying anal for the first time, in fact a lot of women say it feels like they need to poop, but if you experience any kind of pain, you should listen to your body and stop.
Anal sex can lead to little tears in the tissue around your anus, especially if you’ve not used enough lube, so if you feel any painful discomfort it’s time to stop and give your ass a rest.
Now you’re up to speed on what to do you’re ready to try all the wonderful delights of anal play.
